Hey guys, in case you were wondering, yes, I am a girl. And, yes, I am posting on a guys-only blog. However, I am doing it for your sake so you better listen and listen closely.

Recently, I went out of my way to survey many of my friends and female associates about what traits of their boyfriends bothered them the most. While I compiled a longgg list, I decided to share the Top 5 things they hated the most about their boyfriends. So if you read carefully you might just earn yourselves additional brownie points and, best of all, improve your relationship.

GIRLS HATE IT WHEN THEIR BOYFRIENDS ARE…

5. POSSESSIVE
“I hate it when my boyfriend constantly calls during girls’ night out”. - Tiffany, NC

It’s ok to call, but not excessively! Girls do not appreciate being smothered by their boyfriends when they’re out with their gal pals. Again, it’s not only rude and annoying to your girlfriend but it’s mostly impolite to her company. That’s where you don’t want to go wrong and show yourself as a jealous boyfriend (even though you think you’re just trying to check in with her). When girls hang out, more than 50% of the conversations will probably be about their boyfriends anyway. And, girls also pay careful attention to their gal pal’s opinions of their boyfriends and you don’t want to be in the “he’s not-a-good boyfriend” list because you were just too damn possessive. My suggestion is that you wait patiently until she gets home, that’s the perfect time to hold a meaty conversation about her night.

4. DISORGANIZED
“It drives me crazy whenever I came over to my boyfriend’s room, he wasn’t organized…he was always a mess!” - Katrina, Miami FL

You might not know it, but a clean and organized guy is extremely sexy to a woman. If you’re the messy type, you have a lot of cleaning up to do. If you’re the kind to bring your girlfriend home, then you should know that girls like coming home to a relaxing and NEAT environment. Don’t have a pile of laundry in your basket (or worse on your bed or the floor). Refrain from leaving shaved-hair in the bathroom sink as well. Throw away the garbage such as canned energy drinks/sodas and pizza boxes. If you use spray air-fresheners, try using a plug-in air freshener instead because the fragrance actually lasts and it does a great job getting rid of old sweaty clothes smell (especially if you’re athletic). Most importantly, make an effort to make your bed so it’s more exciting and enjoyable to rumple the sheets together. If you do this, guarantee, she’ll have a more pleasurable stay!

3. UNFOCUSED
“It would be nice if my boyfriend isn’t so distracted when he’s out with me. I just feel less important when he shows that he’s more dedicated to his cell phone” - Emily, NJ

When guys start texting or taking phone calls while out on a date (whether movies, dinner, or just hanging out), girls think to themselves “what could possibly be more important than being with me right now.” Guys almost always say, “There’s nowhere else I’d rather be than with you”. Is it so hard for guys to stay true to their word? Just put the damn phone on silent! Don’t pick it up when you know you can call the person back later. Again, it’s just rude and a major turnoff. If this is a habit of yours, you should really work on it. Your girlfriend might not tell you, but this is one of the things that truly annoy her. Basically when you choose to be distracted, you’re giving her the idea that you’re not as dedicated to her as you say you are. And if ever, there are texts or calls that are extremely urgent, remember, that we’re human beings. Kindly inform your girlfriend that you need to take the call, she’ll understand.

2. PLAYING/SURFING
“It hurts to know that I’m not that interesting to talk to since my boyfriend needs extra sources of entertainment while talking to me” - Ella, MA

There is nothing much more annoying than a guy who plays video games or surfs the internet while on the phone with his girlfriend. First of all, it is just plain rude. If you did not know already, girls love talking to their boyfriends. It is pretty much the highlight of our day. So it’s really insulting when you do not take their girlfriends’ calls seriously and think you can multitask just because you can’t be seen in person. We, girls, expect to have our men’s undivided attention when we call you. Secondly, girls ultimately sense it when you guys are doing something else while on the phone. We can tell the difference in the way you speak, notice a change in the sound of your voice, and when there’s just no energy or life to the conversation. Finally, it’s really a major turnoff when girls start to get bored of talking to their boyfriends. Remember, girls should always look forward to having a conversation with you. Anything short of that, you have a problem.

1. RESERVED
“I hate it when my boyfriend says nothing’s wrong just so he wouldn’t have to tell me anything.
I feel like he’s shutting me out when I should be the first person to he should run to”. -Diana, NY

What does having a girlfriend really mean to you? If it just means having someone to watch movies, have dinner , and to be blunt “sex” with, then I hate to say this but you’re not really in a healthy relationship. Let’s face it, there are instances when your girlfriend asks you “what’s the matter?” and you just shrug her off and say “nothing’s wrong, babe” when clearly something’s bothering you. Girls absolutely hate it when guys refuse to say what’s on their mind. When you’re in a relationship, you should not pick and choose what you share with your girlfriend. Girls are very emotional and sensitive beings. Open up your heart because they just want to be help and listen to your problems. You should not limit your experiences to just happy moments. Don’t be afraid to open up because your girlfriend is a great source of comfort other than your families. Believe it or not, a relationship grows stronger and much healthier during times of trials and tribulations because then, you’d learn just how much you can really trust her and see how much she cares.

Well, there you go! Take heed, boys…and MEN! Just because the title underlines GIRLS that doesn’t mean that this doesn’t apply to grown WOMEN.

XOXO.

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